This was one hell of a year. And I’m not speaking of all those deaths and catastrophes people won’t stop referring to as symptoms of an artificially determined period of time. Yes, many people whose works influence me greatly have passed within the past 12 months. But it would take me several books to say goodbye to David Bowie, Leonard Cohen and Carrie Fisher in an appropriate manner. Instead, let this text provide a glimpse into my own biography. A fucking shitload of shit fuck happened to me this year. And I hope I can somehow grow from this. Or get the chance to find a new beginning, which appears to be much more likely at this time.
Let’s start with January, February and March:
New boyfriend, new opportunities? Well, it was… new. And not in a good way. Imagine all the bad things a man could do to a woman and add to that the context of a relationship defined by religious and political controversies. Yes. That happened. All of it. Everything you just imagined. I went to a leadership seminar in Hesse at the end of March. Eight days of studying workcamp management, leadership styles, sustainability, peace strategies… Eight days with two dozen strangers from Germany, Russia and Ukraine. Eight days with limited Internet. Eight days without much contact with the outside world. The day I arrived back home I found the courage to break up with that fucker. We had good times too, though. Our trip to a concert in Munich was great. At least the moshpit was. Who does moshpits in front of Coheed and Cambria? Well, I did!
April, May and June were defined by my trying not to drown in uni work, attempting to create stuff, and fucking more guys than I could count. Lots of awesome kinky stuff happened and I’m happy to have found the courage to actually talk about and live out my fantasies. Of course there’s still a lot to learn and explore but it is so worth it to just accept who you are and tell yourself you deserve a fucking great time in bed (or wherever you prefer), too! Still, as already mentioned, other things didn’t work out so great. It was getting increasingly difficult to complete all the reading for my degree. At first I thought it must be another depressive episode. When I realised it didn’t feel like my usual depression I concluded I’ve simply reached my intellectual limit. People used to tell me I’m smart as fuck but maybe I could make it only so far. Maybe year three of an undergraduate degree is where I couldn’t succeed any longer. Maybe I had spent my whole life unknowingly pretending to be above average. Maybe this was it. That was the point where I started drinking too much on a regular basis.
I didn’t know I was seriously ill until my GP told me in August.
I deferred a module and still only scored a B at the end of the year. But at that point I was already to ill to care. Or to walk for more than ten minutes.
July, August and September were agony.
I wanted to focus on my projects, was about to lead a workcamp with a Berlin HIV prevention organisation and had been accepted to spend three weeks with wolves in Colorado in late September/early October. In the end I had to cancel everything because I was physically unable to leave the bed for more than two minutes without collapsing. Even sitting in a chair was too much for my body. Finally, my mum (bless her!) forced me to the GP who diagnosed serious anaemia. Two more weeks and I would have required a blood transfusion, she said. To answer the question you once had: yes, periods can kill! The side effects of the iron tablets I had to take for the following three months still kept me in bed for most of the time but at least I could play video games again and read a book or two. Oh, yeah, and Pokémon GO! happened at that time, right? Jeez.
October, November and December were dark and sleepless.
Uni started again. My iron levels are back to normal. I am now eating a special diet whenever my uterus refurbishes and am planning to have my copper IUD changed for a hormonal one in June 2017 (hopefully it won’t cause depressions). I went to see Radio Nukular 257901579015790 times or something. POAH! BENNY!
I spent two inspiring days at the creative gaming festival PLAY16 and realised I want to do something with video games for a living for a while.
One of my assignment marks was so bad that I dropped from a predicted 1st to a 2:1. Thus, vet school is off the table. I started drinking again. I accidentally fell in love and fought the agony of its being unrequited with more alcohol.
ROGUE ONE.
About 2017…
Everybody says this but this is my first time and I actually mean it: this is going to be MY YEAR!
I’ll have my degree in June, as well as my driving licence and some money (hopefully). With my career plans being cancelled to some extent I will dare to feel free to travel and explore and get to know myself. Indeed, this sounds pretentious as fuck. But, who cares? I want it. I’m going to do it. For myself. Whenever I see my former classmates who never made it out of here and who just bought houses together with their spouse and children I almost choke from panic because I don’t want to end up where I started.
Oh, and here’s a list as well:
In 2017 I want to:
-finally get that tattoo
– get my old weight back
-finally run at least a half-marathon
-focus on one thing at a time
-improve my French and Spanish skills to fluency (I’m already so close!)
-stream on a regular basis
-practice playing the guitar more often
-focus on myself
-let go of pressuring thoughts
-look after my appearance more
-visit my friends in Lille and Brum
-learn to say no
-get a job that is legal and morally acceptable but still pays money
-find out what interpretive phenomenological analysis even means